On the Shortness of Life

You would have thought I had already learned my lesson. 

Eight years ago I did that which no parent should ever have to do. I buried a child. 

Brittany passed away at the age of fourteen after a brief bout with illness. It left us all in shock. One day she was there, the next she wasn't. For months after her passing I could still hear her voice as if she were in my presence. I expected to see her in the bedroom or sitting on the couch. But I didn't. 

When we knelt for family prayers or sat at the dinner table, there was an obvious void. It felt as if our family had been slashed in half. It was like a bad dream that you hope to wake up from, hoping that the day in the hospital and the funeral were just cruel jokes. But that bad dream continued, and our world of denial became a world of reality. 

Brittany.

I remember my relations with my wife and kids in the time immediately following her death. I hugged them more. I wanted to be with them. Any contention or small squabbles or attention paid to their shortcomings seemed to vanish. In short, I showed them more unconditional love. 

It also made me ponder much on the fragility of life. Brittany didn't deserve to die. No one does. But she did. 

My Grandpa Shumway was killed at the age of 40. My Uncle Jim was only 39 when he passed. And one of my best friends from high school, Nathan Winder, was killed in Iraq at the young age of 32. 

So no, life's not fair, and all of us will die at one time or another. It may be in 70 years, or it may be tomorrow. But it is up to us to take advantage of this life and not squander it. We should reevaluate our lives and decide what is most important. That is the lesson I learned from Brittany's death. 

But life went on and like many of life's lessons, it became lost and forgotten in the jumble of our mortal existence. 

A high mountain lake in Colorado.

About a year later I had a close family member attempt suicide. It was a terrifying experience. Had he not been found at that exact time, he too would have died. It was one of those experiences that traumatized all of us. Even though he would have a long road ahead, we were grateful he was alive. 

But once again it sent my mind back to the day that Brittany died. I remembered those feelings of unconditional love, and then I felt ashamed that I had let them slip from my fingers in less than a year. I wanted to do better. 

That is part of the battle we have while on Earth. We go up and down and struggle to always improve, but there are so many distractions, so many false-roads that we travel that it is difficult—and nearly impossible—to always stay on the strait and narrow. 

Summit of Wilson Peak, 14,023 feet above sea level.

Now it's happening again. But this time it's me. 

This past year has been a difficult one. In addition to all the chaos and inconvenience placed upon us by the Covid-19 pandemic, I have experienced a lot of pain and sickness myself. 

In October I was diagnosed with Polycythemia Vera, a rare blood cancer that affects the way my body creates red blood cells. In short, it creates too many and that causes problems with other areas of my body. The disease is progressive and there is no cure. But with proper treatment I can live a “near normal” life according to my oncologist. 

That last fact is reassuring, but my pain still hasn't resolved. I am also at higher risk of blood clots and strokes. Someone in my category has an expected life span of 25 more years. But I am only 47. I was hoping to make it to 100. And with my continuing discomfort in my stomach, there are more procedures and surgeries to be done and we can't completely rule out the possibility of a second cancer. 

My whole life ahead is uncertain. I don't know how long I'll live, nor the quality of life I will enjoy. It has forced me to sit down and reevaluate those same lessons that I learned after Brittany passed. I must decide and live my life based on what is most important. 

Seneca.

In the year 49 A.D., the Roman philosopher, Seneca, wrote an essay entitled On the Shortness of Life. He argues that life gives us ample time, it's just that we waste much of it in vain pursuits, or just idling it away. Consistent with his stoic philosophy, he recommends we be disciplined in how we use our time. 

His views are summarized in this excerpt from the opening paragraph: “It is not that we have a brief length of time to live, but that we squander a great deal of that time. Life is sufficiently long, and has been granted with enough generosity for us to accomplish the greatest things, provided that in its entirety it is well invested; but when it is dissipated in extravagance and carelessness, when it is spent on no good purpose, then, compelled at last by the final necessity, we realize it has passed away without our noticing its passing.” 

He continues by elaborating: “All that remains of our existence is not actually life, but merely time. We are besieged by vices that encircle us, preventing us from rising up or lifting our eyes to contemplate the truth, and keeping us down once they have overwhelmed us, our attention fixed upon lust.” 

I considered this. What are the “vices that encircle us” and “lust” that our attention is fixed upon? The first thing that came to mind was media and how much time we waste watching television or scrolling the internet on our phones. 

Much of our attention seems to be fixed on how to make more money so we can buy more and more things of this world. These are things that we see our neighbors and friends have. What happened to the world just a few generations past when we had much less and our lives were more simple and happy? 

Seneca denounces a lifestyle that has too much leisure or pleasure. He mentions people who “have spent their lives engaged in chess-playing or exercise with ball or the practice of roasting their bodies in the sun.” He goes on to condemn “useless literature,” stating that “no benefit will accrue from such knowledge.” 

A common theme in modern society is how busy we are. Seneca hits on this: “It is generally agreed that no activity can be properly undertaken by a man who is busy with many things.” And then he wisely adds: “Nothing concerns the busy man less than the business of living.” 

Marathon in the Tushar Mountains.

He also advises on living in the present. “Live here and now!” But he also stresses the need for balance in regard to the past and future: “Should a period of time have passed, he embraces it in his memory; if it is present, he makes use of it; if it is to come, he anticipates it. By combining all times into one he makes his life a long one. But those who forget the past, ignore the present, and fear for the future have a life that is very brief and filled with anxiety.” 

Reading the wisdom of Seneca, as well as that of other sages, has given me a boost in dealing with my new prognosis. I have also learned a lot in observing great examples of people who surround me. One bit of advise I have learned is to stay positive and only worry about those things that are within my control. 

London in 2008.

In regard to the shortness of our lives and the uncertainty of my own point on the continuum of life, I have narrowed my priorities into three categories: 

One. Seize the moment. There are so many good things to do and see on this planet that I can't waste time or miss opportunities to do things I have always wanted to do. I have huge lists of countries I want to visit, mountain peaks I want to climb, hikes I want to take, books I want to read, people I want to interview, food I want to eat, pictures I want to take, history I want to learn. The more I focus on not wasting my time and seizing the moment, the more of these activities I will check off my list. 

Here's an example. I've got a brother-in-law with whom at one time we had a plan to go to a remote canyon and explore some archeological sites that had been hidden from the public until recently. Unfortunately, he and my wife's sister got a divorce and life led us in paths where we lost most of our contact. But I've always enjoyed his friendship and just last week we made contact and decided that this summer we are doing our excursion—after about 8 years! 

Somewhere close to home.

Two. Family. Nothing on this Earth is more important than family. My wife and kids mean everything to me. But do I act as if they do? Do I listen to them, hug them, kiss them, and make time for them? I mentioned above some of the things I'd like to do. But nothing in that category is more important than my family. What does a person have who travels the world and has climbed all the highest peaks, yet loses their family? Nothing. 

I still can improve in this area. I'm trying. Last summer my wife decided to get a large new patio in our backyard. What a great opportunity to make dinner on the grill, roast smore's over the fire and play card games around a table, creating family memories that will last a lifetime. Seizing the moment includes taking advantage of opportunities with your family. 

For me, the temple is one of the best places on Earth to come closer to God.

Three. My relationship with God and preparation for death. I am a religious man. I believe we are sent to the Earth for a purpose. I believe our actions during this lifetime will have eternal consequences. Instead of fumbling through life, being tossed to and fro by the fads and popular ideas of the world, we should be focused on a deeper pursuit. As one scripture puts it, “This life is the time for men to prepare to meet God.” 

Jesus, while he lived on the Earth, practiced unconditional love, charity, service, humility, patience, forgiveness, virtue. He invited all to “come follow me.” Shouldn't we be striving to be like Him? 

If I believe in God, then I should live it. 

Also, if I believe in a life that is eternal, then I should not fear death. Death is just a step, a portal through which we all must pass. As one man said just days before dying, “Now it's time to put our faith in eternity.” 

If I can exercise faith that death is not the end, but another step in our eternal existence, then my actions on Earth will have deeper meaning. I will be less likely to waste my mortal existence and will strengthen my bonds with those people that are most important. 

Quoting Seneca: “Withdraw, then, to these more peaceful, safer, greater things! . . . in order to discover what substance, what will, what manner of existence, what shape God has, what fate is waiting for your soul; where nature gives us rest once we have been released for our bodies. 

“Now, while the blood is warm, we must step out vigorously on the path to better things. Many things worth knowing wait for you in this manner of life—the love and exercise of the virtues, the ability to forget the passions, the knowledge of living and of dying, a state of deep repose.” ♠

 

Bottom of the Grand Canyon.

 

The Wisdom of Seneca

 

Córdoba, Spain is an ancient city. Over time it has been ruled by Romans, Visigoths, Muslims and Christians. A gigantic mosque, now converted to a cathedral, is an impressive icon of the city. During Muslim rule Córdoba became a caliphate and was a world leader in education. 

While visiting there in March of 2011 my wife and I found a passageway near our hotel. Through an arch, we walked up a flight of stone stairs that led to a very narrow pedestrian walkway. Three-story cement buildings lined both sides of the lane, their white-washed walls so close you could stretch out your arms like wings and touch both ends with your fingertips. 

We followed the route for a few minutes when it came to a small, but quaint plaza. A tavern sat at the far end and a handful of well manicured trees grew along the square. A short set of steps led toward a fountain of water that ran into a shallow pool. On the other side of the pool, on a pedestal, stood a beheaded Roman statue. It was none other than Lucius Annaeus Seneca. 

Statue of Lucius Annaeus Seneca.

 

Seneca was born in Roman Córdoba within a year of the birth of Christ. His father studied rhetoric and was of Italian descent, while he came from Spanish ancestry on his mother's side. His older brother, Junius Gallio, once met the Apostle Paul. (Acts 18:12) 

As a young boy he was sent to Rome to gain an education. During his academic pursuits he studied literacy, history and philosophy. Two of his teachers had been pupils of Quintus Sextius, a Roman philosopher who combined Pythagoreanism with Stoicism. Seneca spent time in Egypt after becoming sick, and was later exiled to Corsica after being falsely accused of committing adultery with the Emperor's sister. 

Seneca became a tutor and adviser to the Emperor Nero. This must have been a challenge as Nero is well known in history for his brutal character. At the age of 64, Nero ordered Seneca to commit suicide. He complied by killing himself in the same manner as Socrates, by drinking poison. 

My visit to Córdoba and discovery of the statue sparked an interest in Seneca. It also initiated an interest in the Stoic philosophy of which Seneca adhered. The more I studied the more I realized that many Stoic principles either make up who I am, or what I strive to become. 

Recently I read a book entitled Dialogues and Essays, which contain (long) letters Seneca wrote to friends, in which he gives practical advice using Stoic ideology. He recommends frugality, moderation, optimism, temperance, virtue, courage, and anything that benefits the soul, rather than pleases the body. 

I believe our modern world could benefit from the wisdom of Seneca. We live in a world that indulges in pleasure, while scarcely giving thought to morality. 

Roman Temple in Córdoba, built during the lifetime of Seneca.

 

What follows is a list of my favorite quotes. It could be much, much longer, but I painstakingly thinned it out. 

“We see wrestlers, who concern themselves with physical strength, matching themselves with only the strongest opponents, and requiring those who prepare them for a bout to use all their strength against them; they expose themselves to blows and hurt, and if they do not find one man to match them, they take on several at a time. Excellence withers without adversary; the time for us to see how great it is, how much its force, is when it displays its power through endurance. I ensure you, good men should do the same: they should not be afraid to face hardships and afflictions, or complain of fate; whatever happens, good men should take it in good part, and turn it to a good end; it is not what you endure that matters, but how you endure it.” 

“Shun luxury, shun good fortune that makes men weak and causes their minds to grow sodden, and, unless something happens to remind them of their human lot, they waste away, lulled to sleep, as it were, in a drunkenness that has no end.” 

“No tree is sturdy or firm-rooted without enduring many an assault from the wind; for the battering itself makes it tighten its grip and fix its roots more securely; trees that have grown in a sunny valley lack strength. Accordingly it is expedient even for good men, in order that they may be fearless, to spend much time in fearful pursuits, and to endure with a patient mind things that are bad only to the one who bears them badly.” 

“Very many men manufacture complaints, either by suspecting what is untrue or by exaggerating the unimportant. Anger often comes to us, but more often we come to it.” 

“How much better it is to heal a wrong than to avenge one!” 

“Show gratitude for what you have received; wait for the remainder, and be happy that your cup is not yet full; it is a form of pleasure to have something left to hope for.” 

“The man who has anticipated the coming of troubles takes away their power when they arrive.” 

Roman Bridge in Córdoba, Spain.

 

“Let virtue go first, let her carry the standard: we will nonetheless have pleasure, but we shall be her master and control her; sometimes we will accede to her entreaty, never to her compulsion. But those who have yielded first place to pleasure lack both; for they lose virtue, and and yet they do not posses pleasure but are themselves possessed by pleasure, being tortured by the lack of it or choked by its excess, miserable if it abandons them, more miserable if it overwhelms them.” 

“All life is servitude. A man should therefore grow accustomed to his state and complain about it as little as possible, seizing upon whatever good it may have: no condition is so distressing that a balanced mind cannot find some comfort in it.” 

“Without a plan they rove, searching for work to occupy them, and what they end up doing is not what they have intended to do but whatever they have bumped into; they scurry around without aim or purpose like ants crawling through bushes, that idly make their way to the top of some twig and then to the bottom: it is a life like this that most men lead, one that might justly be described as a restless idleness.'” 

“We must, therefore, take a less serious view of all things, tolerating them in a spirit of acceptance: it is more human to laugh at life than to weep tears over it.” 

“It is, however, necessary to combine the two things, solitude and the crowd, and to have recourse to them alternately: the former will make us long for people, the latter for ourselves, and the one will be a cure for the other: our distaste for the crowd will be cured by solitude, our boredom with solitude by the crowd.”  

“Nature's intention was that we should need no great equipment for living in happiness: every one of us is capable of making himself happy. Little importance is to be attached to external things, and they cannot posses great influence in either direction: the wise man is neither raised up by prosperity nor cast down by adversity; for always he has striven to rely predominantly on himself, and to derive all joy from himself.”  

“Excessive prosperity does indeed create greed in men, and never are desires so well controlled that they vanish once satisfied.”  

“Sadness blunts the mind's powers, scattering and restricting them; not even when disaster strikes him personally will this happen to the wise man, but instead he will beat back all of Fortune's anger and smash it first; he will always maintain the same calm, unperturbed appearance, an impossible thing to do if he were susceptible to sadness.” ♠

 

 

Words From Chairman Mao

The name Mao Tse-Tung conjures comparisons with Stalin, Hitler, Pol Pot. But, who was this man? I will admit that until recently I had never delved into learning who he was.
 
My reading repertoire is not filled with your run-of-the-mill books. I prefer Dostoyevsky to Danielle Steele and Sogyal Rinpoche to A.J. Finn. So, I guess it was no surprise when I chose to read Quotations from Chairman Mao Tse-Tung, more commonly known in the west as The Little Red Book.
 
Born in 1893 to a wealthy farmer, Mao developed a Chinese Nationalist and anti-imperialist view early in life. While studying at Peking University he gained a liking to the Marxist-Leninist ideology. He then founded and became leader of the Communist Party of China. In 1849 when The Chinese Red Army defeated the Nationalists in a Civil War, he proclaimed the foundation of the Peoples Republic of China.
 
In 1958, the Chairman initiated what is known as the “Great Leap Forward,” which aimed to transform the country from an agrarian to industrialized nation. The farming became collectivized and most of the workers were moved to construction projects. In spite of favorable weather, most of the harvest was left to rot due to lack of labor. During the period from '58 to '62 it is estimated that between 18 to 55 million people died, mostly from famine. Over two million were either beaten or tortured to death, and 1 to 3 million committed suicide.
 
In an effort to reduce inequality, about 13 million landlords were killed in an effort to redistribute land to peasants and working class. Many were beaten to death at mass meetings. It is estimated that 2 to 5 million counter-revolutionaries were executed, which included former officials of the opposition party, as well as those whose loyalty was suspect. He defended these killings as necessary in order to secure peace.
 
Despite the atrocious losses that came during the Great Leap Forward, Mao Tse-Tung is revered by many and credited for modernizing China. It is through him that China became a world power, promoted the status of woman, improved education and healthcare, and increased life-expectancy.
 
Mao Tse-Tung also fought a war on drugs. In an attempt to eradicate the production of opium he sent 10 million addicts to treatment and executed the dealers, replanting the fields with new crops.
 

Mao Tse-Tung.

Quotations From Chairman Mao Tse-Tung was published in 1964 as a booklet containing various inspirational and military ideas. It was used as propaganda to influence Chinese thought. As over a billion copies have been printed (making it #2 of all time), the goal of the Chinese government was to have it read by 99.9% of all its citizens.
 
The Little Red Book even made its way to the United States during the cultural revolution when the anti-Nixon and anti-Vietnam crowd could be found with a copy in their back pocket.
 
With all that hype, I decided I had better buy my own Little Red Book. There have been several versions of the book in publication and I believe that mine must be a condensed version as there are only five chapters and twenty-six pages.
 
There are certain themes that tend to run through the chairman's quotes. Above all, to have faith in the Communist Party. Most other themes are typical of Communist ideology such as the elimination of classes, anti-capitalism, and pro-science. He speaks of opposing imperialism and suppressing counter-revolutionaries.
 
Interestingly, he is anti-war. But he also believes it is necessary to have war to end war.
 
I also found it interesting that much of the same dogma preached by Mao is also believed and promulgated by politicians and activists of today. Especially in light of the protests, riots and revolutionary spirit among the youth, I see among them similarities with Communist ideology.
 

Chinese propaganda.

What follows is a small sample of quotations from Chairman Mao Tse-Tung:
 
“The force at the core leading our cause forward is the Chinese Communist Party. The theoretical basis guiding our thinking is Marxism-Leninism.”
 
“A revolution is not a dinner party, or writing an essay, or painting a picture, or doing embroidery; it cannot be so refined , so leisurely and gentle, so temperate, kind, courteous, restrained and magnanimous. A revolution is an insurrection, an act of violence by which one class overthrows another.”
 
“We should support whatever the enemy opposes and oppose whatever the enemy supports.”
 
“[Communism] is different than any other ideological and social system, and is the most complete, progressive, revolutionary and rational system in human history. . . The ideological and social system of capitalism has become a museum piece in one part of the world, while in other countries it resembles 'a dying person who is sinking fast, like the sun setting beyond the western hills,' and will soon be relegated to the museum. The Communist ideological and social system alone is full of youth and vitality, sweeping the world with the momentum of an avalanche and the force of a thunderbolt.”
 
“Apart from their other characteristics, the outstanding thing about China's 600 million people is that they are 'poor and blank.' This may seem a bad thing, but in reality it is a good thing. Poverty gives rise to the desire for change, the desire for action and the desire for revolution. On a blank sheet of paper free from any mark, the freshest and most beautiful characters can be written, the freshest and most beautiful pictures painted.”
 
“Class struggle, the struggle for production, and scientific experiment are the three great revolutionary movements for building a mighty socialist country. These movements are a sure guarantee that Communists will be free from bureaucracy and immune against revisionism and dogmatism, and will for ever remain invincible.”
 
“It can therefore be said that politics is war without bloodshed while war is politics with bloodshed.”
 
“All wars that are progressive are just, and all wars that impede progress are unjust.”
 
“The guns of the Russian Communist Party created socialism. We shall create a democratic republic. Experience in the class struggle in the era of imperialism teaches us that it is only by the power of the gun that the working class and the laboring masses can defeat the armed bourgeoisie and landlords, in this sense we may say that only with guns can the whole world be transformed.”
 
“We are advocates of the abolition of war, we do not want war; but war can only be abolished through war, and in order to get rid of the gun it is necessary to take up the gun.”
 
“Our country and all the other socialist countries want peace; so do the peoples of all the countries of the world. The only ones who crave war and do not want peace are certain monopoly capitalist groups in a handful of imperialist countries which depend on aggression for their profits.”
 
“When human society advances to the point where classes and states are eliminated, there will be no more wars, counter-revolutionary or revolutionary, unjust or just; that will be the era of perpetual peace for mankind.” ♠