Thursday, December 22, 2016

Ko Klang



We paid the man seven baht as we boarded the longtail boat. Villagers from the island use the boats to buy groceries in Krabi town. One lady that stepped into the boat after us held two bags full of food, and another carried a basket. Next to us on the dock, another longtail had a small ramp folded down from the stern for men to load their motor bikes, to ferry across the river.

As we cast off, a dark-faced male with wavy black hair, collared t-shirt and sandals sat at the aft of the boat and controlled the prop. March is almost the hottest month of the year in Thailand and this day fulfilled expectations. A slight coolness in the breeze as we skimmed forward felt welcoming, as did the occasional drop of water splashed up as the boat pushed through the river.

I was curious as to what lied ahead. Ko Klang is not usually on the destination map of those headed to the Krabi Province in the southern depths of Thailand, some 400 miles south of Bangkok. Many of the island's 4,000 residents cross the river to engage in employment brought by tourism in Krabi town. After work, they return to their sleepy hamlet and see very few tourists, except those who wander off the beaten path, like ourselves.



Our ride across the river gave us a closer view of the port of the village than we had yet to see. Shanty houses came right to the water's edge, many of them on stilts and hovering over the river. Every edifice appeared to be constructed of wood, painted various colors; roofs were sometimes supplemented with corrugated metal sheets, and eaves extended well over the walls of the house. The waters here were a murky brown from the stir of activities around the pier. A man waded up to his chest as we approached the dock, which was nothing more than a wooden ramp whose lower end disappeared into the water. The interior of Ko Klang was still a mystery to us, as it was shielded by a jungle of trees.

As we touched with the dock, the man driving the prop jumped out and tied a rope from the boat to a post and wrapped it around snugly and fastened a knot. He helped us over the gunwale and we walked up the wooden ramp and through a wooden shade house where the people who sat on the benches all looked at us, knowing we were not one of them. A couple of men offered us rides on their mopeds, using very basic English. We declined, wanting to enjoy the journey on our feet.



There are no cars in Ko Klang. Only motor bikes, pedestrian traffic, and the tuk-tuk, which is a motor bike with a cart attached to the side. Cement paths throughout the village were smaller than a one-lane road, and traffic was sparse to say the least. It was normal to go five or ten minutes without a passerby.

Although Ko Klang is designated as an island, it isn't in the same mold as your other islands of Southern Thailand such as Phi Phi and Phuket. According to one local man, there is only one beach and it is too far away to walk and very trashy. Also, the island is not completely surrounded by ocean, but mostly rivers and inlets. The indigenous mangrove tree occupies about a third of the island, while the rest has been carved out by man and is used as dwelling and farmland, including many rice fields.

Ko Klang


Upon leaving the pier and gradually coming upon the village by means of the pathway, there was a large sign with pictures and words to the drifting tourists like ourselves. So that there was no confusion, the sign stated bluntly that no alcohol, drugs, pigs, dogs, nor immodesty were allowed on the island. You see, Ko Klang, unlike much of the rest of Buddhist Thailand, is ninety-eight percent Muslim. This tends to reflect the influence of Malaysia, which isn't too far to the south. The people here (I believe) have a different look to them that slants away from the Asian appearance found in Bangkok. The women keep their heads covered with a hijab, and the men (with the exception of some working near the water) dress modestly with pants and shirt.

Ko Klang


Most of the homes rested on stilts, probably a measure against a tsunami. Animals appeared to wander freely and snack on forage near the homes. We saw roosters, cats, goats, and what appeared to be a water buffalo tied to the post of a house. It is interesting that most of the homes had at least two or three bird cages dangling from the porch―I don't know the significance. Laundry was also left to dry alongside pots and pans used for cooking. We saw a sink used for washing dishes on one porch, with a PVC pipe running away to drain the water, obviously a sign of no indoor plumbing.

Some villagers would sell fruit or drinks from the front of their homes. Often this was a rather a humble person who spoke no English, with very few customers for the day. One lady stopped on her moped to sell us pineapple on a stick and a small bag of popcorn. She carried all her goods on a cart attached to the bike. She spoke little English, but left with a smile when we bought her goods.

Thailand




After roaming the outskirts of the village, not knowing the location of the center, we asked around to several people for the whereabouts of the mosque. We thought they would know what we were asking, but time after time, we got a blank look and a shake of the head. At length, one man understood our query and pointed just up the pathway to a low-lying building that hid behind the trees from our angle. This was the mosque.

I had expected the mosque to be somewhat grandiose. It was not. The simple cement structure had white walls and an ocean-blue onion dome on top, with peeling paint. Atop the dome, perched like a weather vane, was the crescent moon, symbol of the Muslim world. A motor bike parked in front, although we saw no one come in or out. I walked to a front portico, knowing I couldn't go inside, and observed the finely polished indigo tiles—by far the most exquisite feature outside the mosque. One lone sign near the entrance read something in Thai script that I didn't understand.




We arrived at a fish farm, which is an occasional stop for tourists who do boat tours from Krabi town. Access is gained via a backdoor inlet of the Krabi River, crawling through eerie mangrove forests, and docking next to the farm, completely circumventing the rest of the village. We were already familiar with this nook of Ko Klang from our boat ride the day before. We stopped here for about thirty minutes while a young Thai man pulled different exotic fish from wooden tanks for us to touch and take pictures.

Although it was the day before, I should mention something of the large mangrove forests that surround Ko Klang. We came through at low-tide when the roots of the trees stood up as if on tip-toes, and appeared almost as large spiders, the roots tangling with themselves as they drooped into the water. The branches above us created a canopy that blocked most of the sky. A trio of long-tailed macaques swung from one branch to another, proving very difficult to spot through the jumble of limbs. The water sat strangely still, and I half-expected something to lung from its depths and snap at us.

Ko Klang


Immediately exiting the forest we came upon the fish farm, which consisted of several wooden huts, some on stilts and others floating on the water. Roofs thatched with palm leaves covered the huts, and some of these roofs had tires resting on top, supposedly to keep the fronds from blowing away. Although a “tourist stop” for some day-trippers, our small group of eight people were the only ones there at that moment. The buildings around the fish farm tended to be better kept than those elsewhere in the village, some with grass yards.

As we meandered to the fish farm from the mosque, it appeared exactly as it did the day before, still very quiet and not many people in view. We found a Muslim lady at a sink washing dishes.




Ko Klang

Our purpose in revisiting this area was to find a bite to eat, as the day before left us no time for such an endeavor. We sat at the only restaurant we knew of, a shaded, open-air structure that floated on the water. I ordered salted fish curry, and Jenelle, fried rice. When the boy brought our food, I couldn't believe the size of the bowl and the saltiness of the fish. In addition to the strong flavor, I found the texture to be very woody, including very fibrous kaffir lime leaves. When we finished and had no more room within us, they brought out large wedges of watermelon. We ate what we could and spat the seeds into the water.

Ko Klang


After our meal we walked back toward the pier, following a different route. We passed more of the same: shanty huts on stilts, roosters roaming the yard, and the occasional motor bike purring by. Oh how I wished that I wasn't a tourist and could walk inside a home to see how they really lived. We saw shoes placed near the threshold of a door, in typical Thai fashion in respect for the home, but what remained inside was a mystery to us. What of the smells, the food, the furniture, the religious emblems, and people?

We passed a worn-down dirt field with grass and trees growing around it. On each side was a small frame of a soccer goal, without net and very rusty. This was their playing field, the bare-minimum by most standards, but probably all they needed. Although no one was on it at this time, the weeds in the center were worn from being trampled upon and used.




Our wanderings of nearly four hours brought us back to the pier where we didn't have to wait long to catch a longtail back to Krabi town. By now the large sun had traveled directly above us, and the sweltering humidity took the edge off of any romantic notions of being in a tropical island village. As I embarked, I asked the boatman the price of crossing the river in his vessel.

“Twenty-five baht,” he said, in broken English.

The price had more than tripled. This was because there were fewer people to share the boat, he said. No importance either way. The boatman started his engine and slowly guided us away from Ko Klang. ♠ 


Tuesday, December 6, 2016

December 6

[The following was written on December 28, 2013. Although three years ago, the same emotions still grip me today.]

The sixth day of December used to mean something entirely different to me. It signified one of the busiest days of the year at work. It also hinted that December was moving quickly and Christmas would be here soon. It acted as a reminder, as well, that our anniversary was in one week, and I had better start thinking about it.

All this has changed.

Last year, by the time the calendar changed from the fifth to the sixthat midnightmy four kids and I were all standing on our front porch, looking up at the sky and watching the blinking red light of an airplane. Mom and Brittany were up there. We teased a little bit that Brittany would be our first kid to ride in an airplaneand she wouldn't even know it! Of course, the teasing was brief, because we all knew that her situation was critical, and we all worried.

I didn't attempt to fall asleep until two o'clock, when I received the phone call from Jenelle to inform me that they had arrived safely in Salt Lake City, and that Brittany had been delivered into the secure hands of the doctors at Primary Children's Hospital.

During the next hour, I tossed and turned, never sleeping. How could I sleep while my fourteen-year-old daughter laid in a coma.

At three o'clock, the phone rang again. Jenelle cried and wailed on the other end. Brittany wasn't going to make it. I was to pack everyone up and drive to Salt Lake immediately.

The four-hour drive to Primary Children's Hospital was the most surreal drive of my life. The sky, black; the freeway, empty; the kids, whimpering. Jenelle called three or four times during the drive, and each time I instantly pulled the vehicle to a stop on the shoulder of the road before I would run behind the Trailblazer, and answer the call. Every time, she only wanted to hear my voice, but every time, I worried that this would be the call, and I worried that the impact of the news on my body would collapse it and send me into paralysis.

At last, we arrived at the hospital, and there I found my daughter lying on a bed, motionless, with tubes attached all around her, and a screw coming from her head. She neither acknowledged me, nor opened an eye.

Family members from all parts of the state gathered there also, to say their goodbye's. More and more came throughout the morning. We said our goodbye's also, by holding her hand, kissing her forehead and crying on her cheek.

We had one final family prayer. We all knelt down around Brittany's bed, and I, as the mouthpiece for the family, gave thanks to God for the wonderful daughter we had been blessed to have during the last fourteen years. Then I pleaded with Him that we could somehow survive this painful blow and asked for His spirit to be abundantly upon us.

When the time came, the nurse unplugged the apparatus that helped her breath, and we all gathered around Brittany and grasped her living body one last time. I rested the side of my head on her chest and felt her breathing become fainter and fainter and finally disappear. With her final breath, it was as if one last, large bubble found a way to escape her lungs. Our baby was gone.

We left the hospital that day, and drove to the south end of the Salt Lake Valley to find a hotel. Our faces must have been quite a sighteyes red and wild. The receptionist at the hotel didn't know what she was getting into. She asked why we were in town, and I responded to her that our daughter had been in the hospital.

“Is she doing alright?”

“No,” was my inevitable response. “She passed away this morning”

She gave us the room for freethe first in a long line of tender mercies.




One year later, and in a very different setting. The exact same thoughts are running through our minds. This year we are in California, having just left our hotel in Barstow. No snow. Warm Mojave air and palm trees.

We stopped at Walgreen's in Victorville. Jenelle forgot to bring a picture of Brittany, but she was able to find one on her laptop and send in an order to the one-hour lab. That was a relief! We would have kicked ourselves if we hadn't been able to fix that one. At Walgreen's we also picked up an 8 x 14 wooden picture frame.

Within an hour, the chaos and insanity of the southern California freeway system was well upon us. Clinching tight to the steering wheel left me with few resources in my brain to think of Brittany.

At approximately 11:25 am, I exited the 210 onto Fruit Street, a road that I felt was fitting for the apple-queen of our family. We turned left, then another left, and found ourselves parked, semi-secluded, inside a tiny cul-de-sac, along a brick wall, where the 210 surely rumbled along the other side. We turned off the vehicle and and listened to one last song, Somewhere Over the Rainbow, one of Brittany's favorites. Then we turned all music off for a moment of silence at 11:38, the exact minute that Brittany passed away. Jenelle stepped outside and found some beautiful pink flowers spilling over from someones yard. Brittany would have loved them, so she picked one.

Once again on the freeway, we made our way closer and closer to the chaos. The kids all awed in amazement at L.A.'s magnificent skyline. Soon, it wasn't a skyline at all, but we were directly beneath the buildings.

We spent two hours in Chinatown. Jenelle bought a wooden Eiffel Tower inside a shop. The wooden kit mingled with incense burners, fans, Chinese toys, and other Asian merchandise.

Before checking into our hotel in Santa Monica, we stopped at the grocery store, Vons. Parking was tight, but not as tight as the space inside of our vehicle after we left the store with fifteen helium balloonsfourteen teal and one purple. Fourteen to represent every year that we had her with us, and one purple to signify the one that we didn't. The balloons spread out across the second and third row of seating inside the Trailblazer. No way to see behind me. Jordan's voice was my mirror.

We made it to our hotel, which just happened to be across only two roads from the beach. After checking in, many bystanders witnessed a family of six, all in white t-shirts, carrying fifteen helium balloons along a cross-walk and over the bridge that led to Santa Monica Pier.

I must say, that before we crossed the bridge, we were stopped in awe as we watched a street performer perform the song, Tears in Heaven, which is the same song that we played for the balloon release at Brittany's funeral. We hadn't heard the song since then, so what were the odds?

Once at the beach, Jenelle began arranging us for a family photo. We held the balloons and positioned ourselves in an aesthetically pleasing manner. From the backpack, Jenelle pulled out a newly framed picture of Brittany, to be held by one of our kids on the front row. We set the camera on a tripod, and after a few intense moments of forcing everyone to hold still and to smile, a pleasant-looking family portrait was taken. We all appear to be happy, but to the mindful observer, it has to be noted that we are in agony, because we know that one of our children is not really there, but only in image, as we hold a photo of her inside an 8 x 10 frame.

Then came time to release the balloons. No music. Only the sound of crashing waves upon the sand. The wind was our enemy that evening. Not only did it confuse all the strings into knots, but by the time we cut them loose and handed them to the kids to release, the wind sent our balloons eastward in a fury, giving us little time to ponder their flight through the air.

This was a beach that Brittany loved, so it only felt appropriate that we return and remember her. And that is what we did,remember her. ♠